My story in the search for having a child begins when my husband and I had been married for 2 years. My dream since I was very young was to start a family. I always wanted it that way because I come from a fairly large family.
We started trying but nothing happened. After a year of trying to get pregnant, I visited my gynecologist. He recommended some tests. By then I would be 31 years old. The tests determined that possibly the quality of my eggs was not very good and I produced very few. Apart from that, I had a semi-obstructed fallopian tube, which would make it more difficult to get pregnant. But he told me that I was still very young and that there were possibilities of achieving it. At that moment we were still calm. As time passed, my anguish began to grow since nothing happened. We underwent a treatment which the waiting causes you anxiety.
My husband supported me in every way but internally I felt very sad and wondered why me if my mother and sisters were very fertile. I questioned myself a lot at that moment. Finally, after almost 4 years of hopelessness, I had an in vitro fertilization which resulted in my first child. My miracle child. It was the greatest happiness in the world for me, my husband and my family. By then I was 35 years old.
I became the proudest mother in the world. At that moment we were thinking of only staying with one child since the search process wore us out a lot as a couple. But as time passed, I looked at my son and told myself that I could not leave him without a sibling.
And the thoughts of wanting a large family returned but also the fear of going through the same process again and at this moment I had my age against me, not because I felt that it could not be done but because of the diagnosis I had a few years ago that would make it more difficult.
Over time, I spoke with my husband and the two of us, with much fear and uncertainty, started the process of trying again. When my son turned two, I went back to my doctor. He told me that the only way I could get pregnant was through in vitro fertilization and that he could not guarantee that it would work.
That’s how I underwent 3 more in vitro fertilizations, adding a healthy diet, exercise to keep my body in good condition, but again the anguish took over me. I only thought about that all the time. I got to the point that seeing couples with more children affected me emotionally or the reckless comments of other people made me feel very bad. I got to the point of lying and saying that I didn’t want more children and that I felt good with just one, which was not true but it was my defense mechanism to evade that topic.
My husband as always by my side supporting me in those moments. Finally, we gave up looking for a sibling for our son since this was affecting our daily relationship as a couple. However, by that time I started doing acupuncture for 8 months to relax and feel better, which helped me a lot.
One day my husband in a conversation told me: why don’t we travel to your country and try it one last time. In the conversation he told me that perhaps being with my family and more relaxed and out of this environment for a while could work.
With millions of doubts and after thinking about it for a few days I said yes and that’s how we traveled to my country and I underwent treatment with an excellent doctor. To our surprise and that of my family, I became pregnant not only with one but with two beautiful little ones. Now, at 40 years old I am the happiest mother in the world with my eldest son of 5 years and my twins of almost 15 months. They are the center of our lives.
I look back and start thinking about everything that happened. All my doubts, my fears, the uncertainty and I think that the wait and everything I lived was worth it. Deep down, I never lost hope of being a mother and I fought together with my husband and my family until I achieved it. Without them it would never have happened. Of course my life changed from heaven to earth. I am the busiest mother in the world but also the happiest. Now, I thank God, my family and science for having allowed me to go through this long road because in the end it was worth it.
