Infertility was a situation that accompanied us for approximately six years, as it took time to detect it and act accordingly. In the first 3 years, after we made the decision to have children, the tests did not yield results that would allow us to detect the causes that generated it (apparently everything was fine) and therefore no special treatment was sought. However, we resorted to some medications to help with fertilization and some surgical procedures to prepare my body in order to achieve pregnancy.
The couple’s relationship at this time was very sensitive, as sexual relations at times lost the spontaneity and freedom that characterized them, as they had to be had on certain days of the month or according to the doctor’s recommendation.
As time passed, we suspected that something had to be happening, because despite the life as a couple, the tests, the medicines, and the passage of time, I could not get pregnant. As time passed and I was 35 years old, the anguish was considerable because all the articles I read on the subject said that the best time to have healthy children is up to 35 years old, from then on the quality and quantity of eggs deteriorates and the risk increases.
This time was very hard because of this and because at this moment family and friends from school and university were getting pregnant, in my case I had 3 nieces who got pregnant and a nephew had a baby, the best friends from school and several co-workers got pregnant and had their children, not to mention that I more frequently encountered pregnant women wherever I went. It was really a very hard time.
The family gynecologist referred us to a specialized fertility center and there began another stage of the process of having children. In that center I finally managed to have my two beautiful and healthy babies, but there you experience another anguish and that is that the treatments are not mathematical operations that guarantee you that if you add this plus that, you will obtain a pregnancy that comes to a successful conclusion.
This brings some frustration, because you can’t explain why being a healthy, athletic, relatively young couple, you apply the medicine and follow the medical advice to the letter, you have so much difficulty, with so many spontaneous pregnancies that are achieved around you. You feel a great impotence, because it is something that you cannot manage or control, only do up to a certain point and leave the rest in God’s hands. This gave me a great lesson in humility with respect to others and to God himself.
I believe that the key for us to achieve a pregnancy that culminated in two beautiful babies was to persevere, not to give up, because for me it was the most important project of my life to which I managed to get my husband and I to commit with constancy, discipline and with all the resources that it demanded, even if we had to give up others important to us.
My husband, seeing me so determined to put everything within my reach, supported me and was always by my side and contributed with everything that corresponded to him in the treatments, as well as with his love and consolation when things were not going well or the result was unfavorable.
From this moment I feel that my relationship as a couple was strengthened more and that my husband today values and admires me more for having persevered and having encouraged him to continue without giving up to reach the beautiful and valuable goal, because I was determined to bet on it until the doctor told me there was nothing more to do.
So if you want a baby, give everything you have to achieve it because at this moment we are a very happy home. Today I see in my babies the greatest treasure that God and life have given me and congratulate myself for not having given up.
