Infertility: mixed emotions for men and women
The field of emotions is a world to be explored in the human being. And although it has always been said that, when it comes to feeling, men and women seem to be from different planets, at the moment of facing a common problem it is necessary to reach agreements to live in harmony such a painful process for two people who have a common life project.
Infertility is a novelty that many couples do not expect, and, therefore, it is a moment that is lived with many questions from both. And although it is normal to feel sadness at an initial diagnosis of infertility, as time goes by man and woman show much deeper emotions about the subject, the same ones that tend to create friction in the relationship because of the differences that each one has when it comes to addressing the challenges that infertility faces. Like any other challenge for human beings, it involves two people who want to start a family.
Differences that mark
For most women, receiving a diagnosis that suggests difficulties in having a baby becomes a topic that needs to be talked about and informed. For this reason, many choose to talk to their family, friends and other close people in order to vent their emotions and find support in this difficult circumstance. Also, it is common for the woman who knows that she has problems getting pregnant to be informed by different means about the specific circumstances of her case, and that is where she takes refuge in the internet, social networks, forums and other means to learn about similar cases, understand the magnitude of the problem and how to solve it.
On the other hand, the issue of infertility in men is handled, in most cases, with silence and greater modesty. Psychologists know that man is more rational, thoughtful and distant in the face of the problem, and that he needs to take refuge in himself to avoid thinking too much about this situation. That does not mean that the man does not feel sadness, pain or anxiety at the idea of not being able to have children: simply, his way of reacting to this problem is different from that of his partner, and that is how he finds resources to avoid falling into hopelessness and depression in the face of the scenario of not being able to start a family.
This difference in addressing the same situation is where the problems begin in a couple who must face infertility as part of their daily lives: while they complain that their partner seems indifferent to a problem that is painful for both, they argue that their partners seem obsessed with the issue of infertility. which overwhelms and stresses them in most cases.
Before reaching that moment of tension or even when you are already living that stage, it is necessary to have psychological support focused on infertility, because this clash of emotions can lead to much more serious problems within the couple such as fights, arguments and other consequences that can destabilize the relationship and blur the fight that only between the two can give. Only by acknowledging the differences and reaching agreements on how to handle the issue of infertility can two people who want to have a baby find a way to live the process in a calmer and healthier way for both.
If you require professional psychological counseling to face your own case of infertility, at the Inser offices in Bogotá, Medellín, Pereira and Cartagena we have the psychological accompaniment service for couples who consult with our human fertility specialists. Learn more about this service here.
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