Gestational loss. What happens to our bodies and emotions?

When experiencing a pregnancy loss, especially in couples undergoing fertility treatment, it is recommended from the emotional component to experience that grieving process that allows the pain, sadness and farewell.

There is no single or ideal way to live gestational grief, and each person does it according to their experience and feeling. However, allowing yourself to feel is the first step to moving forward and accepting.

How to face a gestational duel?

The first thing is to understand that grief is a normal emotional process when suffering a loss. In the case of pregnancy, the loss of an unborn baby.

Although it is difficult to express this pain for many people, it is important to allow yourself to live the process, accept it, and transform it. The feeling of grief will be the same for everyone. Each person must live their loss according to their emotions, feelings, and personality.

The important thing is to understand that it is a difficult moment that must take place, and if necessary, the use of a professional psychologist can help deal with it and move forward.

What are the most common feelings during pregnancy loss?

1. Guilt: seeking responsibility or taking responsibility for oneself is one of the most common actions; however, during this process, it is important to understand that losses occur due to factors beyond someone’s control. Understanding the causes is important in the grieving process, but letting go, living, accepting what happened is essential.

2. Remorse: to feel that you could have done something wrong generates a feeling of guilt that, although it may not correspond to reality, it is essential to observe it, accept it and then transform it by connecting with what is valuable that the experience of having gestated the time we did.

3. Loneliness: Although pregnancy losses are more common than is believed, people who experience this process feel alone and afraid to talk about it. It would help if you looked for support groups that help live the duel in the best way and with accompaniment.

4. Sadness: it is an innate feeling of the human being before a loss or farewell. It’s great to feel it and then welcome new feelings of well-being. It is important to understand that those conflicting feelings can coexist and are normal.

How to deal with gestational grief?

There is no single way to deal with gestational grief. Each person must live this experience uniquely and individually. We share some recommendations that will help you cope with this farewell to continue in the best way:

1. Look for support networks to understand that you are not the only one.

2. Allow yourself to live the process to accept and transform it.

3. If you feel it necessary, have rituals that allow you to give a place to your experience and that make possible the farewell that is so fundamental in mourning.

4. Value the time you enjoyed the pregnancy. It was a unique experience that will remain forever in your heart.

5. Respect the other’s grief. Not all of us experience the process in the same way.

6. Look for emotional accompaniment. It will help you go through the experience, prepare for the grieving process, understand the right moment to continue searching for motherhood and fatherhood if you desire.

Can emotions lead to pregnancy loss?

There is no evidence to show that the emotional part is a direct factor that leads to pregnancy loss; however, some behaviors acquired by psychological or emotional aspects can lead to behaviors that alter fertility. For example, consumption of nicotine or alcohol due to anxiety, lack of sleep, or rest due to feelings of worry or stress.

Do not forget that the body, mind, and emotions are integral; what happens on one side can affect or alter the other. The important thing is to take equal care of all these areas of our lives.